Become “One of the Best Couples Around”
This could happen. Imagine you run home, embrace your best friend, and laugh uncontrollably. You support each-other, have fun, and communicate well. You desire your partner, are desired by your partner, and experience satisfying emotional and physical closeness.
Unfortunately, instead you are likely very normal. You feel distant from your partner, frustrated, and hurt. You don’t enjoy spending time together, communicate poorly, and blame each other often.
Or maybe your relationship has gone silent. No one is talking about the “pink elephant” in the living room. I mean if you actually have a pink elephant in your living room, you should probably at least discuss who will feed it. You dare not speak of it, because asking any questions or speaking up could lead to conflict. You do not like conflict and avoid it.
At times you may wonder if you even are “in love” anymore. Sadly, sometimes you worry you chose the wrong partner, you highly doubt your partner will change because you have tried everything, and fear it is too late. You have no idea this is all normal.
How I Can Help
I work with couples stuck in unhappy relationships who won’t settle for a normal relationship. Instead they want loving, supportive, and fun relationships.
As a well trained couples counselor I work with couples who want to:
- Uncover what the real problem is, face it, and create the relationship they desire.
- Stop hurting each-other, learn how to communicate well, and be there for each-other.
- Face past hurts, heal from betrayals, and address fears so they can trust their partners.
- Do what it takes to change, reconnect with their integrity, so they can feel proud when they look in the mirror.
- Learn to appreciate each-others differences so they are deeply understood and can be their true best selves in the relationship.
When choosing a couples counselor it is vital your counselor has specialized couples counseling training. I have specialized training in Couples Counseling subsequent to a masters and license in professional counseling. The Bader-Pearson Developmental Couples Counseling Model will be our map for change. l have been training for over four years with Ellyn Bader and Pete Pearson who designed this model, I am a teaching assistant in their online training program, am currently part of their master mentoring program, and know how to apply this map well.
I have additional training in Redecision Therapy and Advanced Integrative Therapy (energy psychology treatment) which are two ways to address past hurts and speed up the growth process. You will have access to the tools I have learned from Emotionally Focused Couples Training and PAIRS training.
I have been in relationship with my husband for over 15 years and I have two children. I know first hand what it takes to build a healthy relationship, manage the struggles of parenting, and personally grow in a marriage.
I am compassionate, insightful, and directive. You can count on me to challenge each of you to step up and change to create the relationship you desire. I am biased towards couples that come in for help; I know these are the couples who care enough about their relationship to change it for the better. It is a great honor to help you.
Your Next Step
If you want to be one of the “best couples around” you will have to learn how to be different. This is not instinctual; if it were you would already be doing it. Even if you think you have tried everything before, you will have to learn a different way as will your partner. I know the different way and have helped many couples change.
Complete this form today to set up a time for a free 10 minute phone consultation with me. We will discuss if there is a match between the approach I offer and the changes you would like to make. I look forward to speaking with you and applaud you for taking the first step to change.